Celebrate your freedom my dearest daughter <3
Today is your birthday and I find my thoughts straying towards you as they so often do. There is much advice and love I would pass to you on this monumental occasion. We did not plan so many of the things we have weathered together and I would not trade a single moment you have been in my life for anything. One of these days we are going to be able to sit together and have these talks.
“I hope you’ll make mistakes. If you’re making mistakes, it means you’re out there doing something. And the mistakes in themselves can be useful.”
Yes, I said I hope you make mistakes. The world becomes broader, you become wiser and life is more filled with joy when you accept and learn from those mistakes, and better yet, triumph by using them to do good in your life. You have had odds stacked against you which you have gloriously overcome and that my dearest is a skill only the wise ever hone.
If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask what seat. Just get on.”
If a dream opportunity comes up, seize it. Don’t question it, don’t fear it – trust yourself and your heart as well as the voices and advice of those that love you and you can hardly ever fail to do something great!! Don’t limit yourself with useless walls and obstacles, often we are the only thing in our way. The only way you are going to learn is by going out and doing what inspires you, what moves your heart. Don’t think the dream is too big for you, think YOU are too big for small dreams.
KUTCHER: I believe that opportunity looks a lot like hard work. When I was 13 I had my first job with my dad carrying shingles up to the roof. And then I got a job washing dishes at a restaurant. And then I got a job in a grocery store deli. And then I got a job in a factory sweeping cheerio dust off the ground. And I’ve never had a job in my life that I was better than. I was always just lucky to have a job. And every job I had was a steppingstone to my next job, and I never quit my job until I had my next job. And so opportunities look a lot like work.
Opportunity, can and will ALWAYS look like hard work. If it is the hard choice, chances are it is the right one. Anything worth having is worth working for. Easy and broad is the path of those who would skate by on shallow living. No matter what you do or where you start, have pride in yourself and what you are doing. So what if you are slinging dishes, run that dishroom like you mean it, own it and take pride in a job well done!! People will notice because it starts to show in your character that, not only are the little things important, but the big picture too. It is a skill that will serve you well when you settle down in your adult career and life.
KUTCHER: The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart and being thoughtful, and being generous. Everything else is crap, I promise you. It’s just crap that people try to sell to you to make you feel like less. So don’t buy it. Be smart, be thoughtful, and be generous.
Anyone who does’t appreciate that gorgeous brain of yours, doesn’t deserve to have you in their life. Never apologize for being smart and never stop looking for the answers to the questions in your heart. The sexiest thing next to confidence is a smart woman who not only knows her mind, but backs it up as well with knowledge and facts. If she can tell you why she believes it ~ well hot damn she is smart and wise. *wink*
Don’t let the sometimes unfair and cruel happenings of life change that sweet and generous heart of yours. Giving to others of yourself with no regard for a “reward” is one of the most beautiful things a person can do. Yes some will abuse it but the Karma that comes back to you will bless you tenfold for what you unselfishly put out in love and peace. Karma has a long memory, it will come back to those who mean you evil as well and sometimes if we are lucky we get to watch *wink* lol. Not to joy in it, but rather to realize and see the circle from the other side as well. It could happen to us just as easily were we not careful…
KUTCHER: Everything around us that we call life was made up by people that are no smarter than you. And you can build your own things. You can build your own life that other people can live in. So build a life. Don’t live one, build one. Find your opportunities, and always be sexy.
~ And he pointed at his head when he said, “Always be sexy.”
Now that you are 18, you and YOU alone hold the pen and paper to your life. Do not ever let anyone write your story for you my dear. Hang on to the pen and even if your page is full of teardrops, rejoice for you are truly living your life if you embrace it all. Life shortchanged you when it came to biological connections. Your father left far too early and your egg doner 😉 well we all know how that one played out. Blessing of blessings for you to already know that your family is the people you choose. Me, you, T and his mom…don’t let anyone tell you they aren’t your ‘real’ family. My so called “fake family” has been there for me way more than anyone else in my life. Build a life honey, build one you can be proud of and your children can be proud of.
“Whatever you choose, however many roads you travel, I hope that you choose not to be a lady. I hope you will find some way to break the rules and make a little trouble out there. And I also hope that you will choose to make some of that trouble on behalf of women.”
Well behaved women rarely make history daughter of mine. Let that fire of yours burn bright. Don’t let anyone cover it, extinguish it or blow it out. Set the world on fire with your dreams and beliefs. Stand firm in your values and shake the foundations of what isn’t right. I believe in you and I always have your back!!
I think it’s an amazing quality to be able to roll with the punches and not be totally ruined as a person because life’s been rough for you. That’s a really admirable way to go through your life.
A rolling stone gathers no moss….don’t let grass grow under your feet. Keep rolling, keep riding the wave because life will always throw you a new curve, a bigger wave and a harder task but rise every single time to the challenge, you will be greatly rewarded for your persistence.
Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, because hate in your heart will consume you too.
Let go of the past honey. Don’t hang on to any poision that will shrivel your heart. Hate isn’t worth the time or effort sweet thing. Karma is a way bigger bitch than any of us could ever be. “Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.”
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” “The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.”
Love yourself, be gentle with yourself. Treat yourself as if you were a small child in need of protection, comfort and nurturing. A whole inner self is a strong foundation to work from no matter what life may throw your way. Remember that even if it is small you have a profound effect on the world just by being here. Let your ripples mean something and they must start from inside your own heart. But most of all my dear…..Go where the love is!! Don’t accept something empty and trivial in your life because you fear being alone. For when you open your heart wide to the possibilities and power of love, anything is possible. Accepting an imitation or substitute is short-changing yourself.
I am as always, so very proud of you. We don’t always agree or see eye to eye, but I know and you know that there is always love and that we will always be in one another’s corner and that is the greatest gift of all for your birthday. Having that and knowing that.
Stay true to you always my dear, no one can do it like you can. <3
Love always and forever,
little bit of devil in those angel eyes.
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Until we meet again, stay safe and be blessed.