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I am sooo Entitled…..

I am seriously SMFH. What is it with today’s youth that they feel entitled to certain things before they have earned them?

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The constant refrain I hear, even around here, is “the world doesn’t owe you anything”. I have spent my whole life, as the product of a single parent home, understanding that nothing worth having comes easy or cheap. There is a price to be paid for everything. Sometimes we trade one thing for another. Does it matter? When it comes down to brass tacks, you have to bust your ass to get anywhere in life. Sure fate plays a role, but I sincerely believe our destiny is what we make of it.

I see all these teenagers and young 20s sitting around whining about life. And I will tell you where and how it started. It started with all this feel good BS we shovel, it started with EVERYONE gets a trophy, everyone makes the team, no one’s feelings can get hurt and we have to “protect their fragile little egos”. Fragile my ass, kids are tough as nails, kids are dictators; kids are barbarians that need to be shown how to act civilized; they have to be taught to find their conscience. Come on, let’s be honest.

I have very, VERY, strong -willed children. (yes that does include my asshole step-sons 😉 – lol) I am way too far into this parenting gig to lie to myself or to you my friends. Oh sure, I can put a tu-tu on it, but why bother? We are all adults here. They will complain no matter how good they have it, honestly – the better they have it, the more they seem to complain these days. It’s like the cushion we have been providing because “we were gonna raise our kids different from the strict nonsense. WE are gonna understand them like we weren’t….” or whatever reasons drive you because each of us is different despite our similarities.

Still they are sliding through school, sliding through home life with no responsibilities, given every reason in the world not to succeed and we act surprised when they get out of line. How else can I explain the basic need for us to let them fail when it is little, when we can kind of, direct the blow? Failure is a must have in order to survive. If we scuttled after a child constantly and never let them get hurt they would never know and be sent out into the world expecting the same. If we love our children and truly want what is best for them I believe we need to teach them that life isn’t fair, that roads get bumpy, that you may not end up where you thought you would be, but that the journey was worth it and the place is exactly where you need to be.

No boss will call your house to make sure you are out of bed on time. No doctor will sit by your bedside and nurse you back to health because you won’t take care of yourself. There is no magic kiss that will make your heartaches better when you grow up. It is hard. Life is hard. We have to teach them it is worth it.

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What are your thoughts my friends? Until next we meet, stay safe and be blessed.

 

Discussion (2 Comments)

  1. by Ordinary Girl

    What a great quote!! I may have to print that off and hang it up myself. I totally agree with you. My kids started picking up their rooms and such when they were old enough to mess it. I don’t mind helping, I would tell them, but I didn’t make it and I’m not going to clean it up by myself.

    I don’t have to spank them or yell at them in public, I simply ask them who is in charge of this expedition….and when they answer you, then I nod and say I thought so…..it solves a TON of issues as well as prepares them realistically for life. Great job and kudos to you for doing that :)

  2. Ralph Waldo Emerson… that quote inspires me on a daily basis… I have a sign on my peg board in my office…

    It’s my motto… It’s what I raise my son with….

    Respect what you have… Work harder for the things you want.
    Failure happens, you pick yourself up… and you keep pushing on….

    All the great things in life take the most effort to achieve.

    People think I am too strict, and hard on my 6-year old… But, at the end of the day, I know that these life lessons will prove helpful…

    We still enjoy our life.. he still has everything he needs, and a good amount of things he wants… But, when the chips fall down, I know he will do the right thing… and work for it.

    Even at the ripe old age of 6.